As I scrolled down my Facebook news feed this morning, I was greeted with a flood of depressing statuses and memes about the grueling transition from Christmas vacation back into the world of “9 to 5“, the every day grind, and normal life. It was truly unfortunate to see SO many people feeling perturbed about returning to their jobs. It was inevitable to conclude that they were not happy with what they do. In fact, if I were to ask those individuals the question “It sounds like you aren’t happy at your job..am I right?“, I would expect to get answers along the lines of:
“You do what you have to do”
“It pays the bills”
“I mean, I guess it could be better”
Then, if I were to reply to their responses to that question with “So, why are you doing that job if you aren’t fully satisfied?” I would probably receive answers along the lines of:
“With this economy, you can’t do what you want or like- you do what you have to, to survive”
“I don’t have any education- so this is all I can do”
“What I want to do isn’t realistic”
For all of you currently reading this, think about those questions- how would you answer?
“Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be.”
This quote is from one of my favorite movies/books, Eat, Pray, Love. Many of you are probably asking, “what does that even mean?” Let me take a second to explain. Above, there is a picture of two little boys doing something we here in America call “window shopping”. They’re looking at something through the storefront window that they desire to have, but believe they are unable to get. Like those little boys, a lot of you exercise “window shopping” with your dream job, dream car, dream house, dream lifestyle– You look at them from behind the glass. Desiring them, hoping for them, wishing for them, but that’s all. You don’t believe there’s anything you can do to attain them and you think they’re unrealistic, so you walk away. You leave your dreams and desires sitting in that storefront window on display. Listen… STOP WALKING AWAY! Stop participating in this cycle of looking through the glass and not walking through the door! Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be! In other words, stop wishing for the things you want! Start knowing that they’re yours! Start knowing that if you want something bad enough, there is a way to attain it; that you will find a way to attain it! It is really that cut and dry. Getting what you want out of your life is realistic and very possible. You don’t have to look through the glass forever. You can walk through the door and go for it. However, there is one confounding variable that will hinder you from walking through that door. There is one factor that will stop you from going for it, and it isn’t society, the economy, or the government…
It’s YOU. It’s your mindset and attitude about life. It’s your fear of leaving the security of the “status quo”, “the typical”. It’s your decision to believe that what’s “normal” and “realistic” can only be based off of what society says they ought to be. Now, don’t get me wrong- I understand that it’s difficult to deter from these societal norms.I’m sure that “getting a backbone”, “making the shift”, and being contrary to the mainstream ways of life sound scary, but don’t worry, it is scary at first! Stepping out of society’s “box of expectations” can come with a lot of ridicule and challenges that can be hard to deal with. However, as difficult as it may be to let go of your wishbone and pick up your backbone, it is necessary for living a truly satisfying and meaningful life on YOUR terms. Normal life doesn’t have to mean settling for a lifestyle that you don’t want to have. You don’t have to write a depressing Facebook status about going back to work after Christmas break, and you don’t have to look at your desired lifestyle from behind the glass of society’s norms and expectations for life. You can walk through the door to your dreams. You just have to make the change in yourself, the adjustment to your thinking- you have to make the shift! Along the course of this blog journey, I’ll continue to provide the tools and tips necessary for making this shift and we will design a plan for your life together! Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to have rocks, you can have diamonds!
Be on the lookout for my next blog post coming this Wednesday, “Making the Shift”.