The Week from Hell

Hi everyone! I bet you all can’t wait to hear all about the issues and misfortunes that I endured this week…

SORRY!!

I’m glad you all decided to read my post in hopes of hearing some juicy stories, but unfortunately, we are not talking about my week from hell- we are talking about yours.

When it comes to pursuing your dreams or doing anything in general, most of you are very excited and determined. All you can think about is getting started and making it happen! You create all of your plans, figure out how you’re going to implement those plans, and then you prepare to execute without a second thought in your mind.

However, it isn’t always that cut and dry.

You may wake up on a Sunday morning, full of ambition and excitement about your goals for the upcoming week. You sit down and  plan out how you want everything to go and then when the week starts everything goes the opposite of how you thought it would, and it doesn’t get any better as the week goes on. Plans start to backfire, and as a result you become frustrated and angry.

Don’t give up.

You have all had your week from hell one time or another in your life, and it can be really frustrating, disappointing, and discouraging. Sometimes, things get hard and, sometimes, and you feel like you’re running dead into a brick wall over and over and over again. However, keep pursuing your dreams, goals, or whatever it is you’re trying to achieve. Life is going to happen. Things are not always going to work out perfectly and on your own terms. Plans are going to fail, you are going to make mistakes, and people are going to let you down. However, don’t let this hold you back.

Fail forward.

In other words, don’t let your failures show you what you did wrong, but what to do next. Learn from the things that happened, and use them to help you better achieve your goals and make your plans for success. Failures do not have to always be bad. With mistakes comes learning, with learning comes growth, and with growth comes new ideas and new ambitions. This week, I challenge you to not let failures, or mistakes phase you, but fuel you with the desire, determination, and direction you need to continue to pursue your dreams successfully.

Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond.

-Kayla ❤

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Follow YOUR Dreams.

During the Christmas holiday one of my favorite movies to watch is This Christmas. For those of you who have seen the movie, you can probably remember the scene in the beginning when all the kids come home for the holiday. Lauren London’s character, Mel, tells everyone at the dinner table that she changed her college major again so that she had the same major as her new boyfriend. Apparently she changed her major quite often so that it would be the same as whoever her boyfriend was at the time which was why it was taking her seven years to finish her four year degree.

While sitting in a snow storm last night, that scene from the movie crossed my mind and it really made me think; this happens every day.  A lot of people and a lot of you embrace other people’s dreams. Here’s why:

1) You want to please/ impress someone

2) You want to be around someone you like

3) You want to gain the attention of someone you like

Think about the times that you have done something for one of those three reasons. How did that situation turn out for you? How did it make you feel to pretend? What if  you decide to join a team, pick up a hobby or pretend to be passionate about something just so you can advance your own personal motives that have nothing to do with the success of the goal or dream.Think about how that may affect the people you are working with. How do you think they would feel if they found out you were pretending to be interested and passionate about something? Here are some probable answers for you:

1)They will probably be upset to hear that you “used their dream” as a vehicle to advance your own motives.

2)They will probably be unhappy that you wasted their time.

3) They will probably be upset that you failed to see how important their dreams and goals are to them.

4) They will probably wonder why you aren’t  embracing your own dreams.

Sorry to be brutally honest, but when people find out that you only pretended to be passionate or interested in something that they are truly passionate about, they aren’t going to think you are SWEET, CUTE, or SUPPORTIVE. When people are truly passionate about something, they do not have time to play games or deal with foolishness, and neither should you! Sure, some people may feel “flattered” by this, but the majority of people are going to want to know why you aren’t pursuing YOUR dreams, and you should be asking yourself that same question…

“What am I truly going to get out of embracing someone else’s dream?”

Some of you will go through life pretending to be excited about someone else’s dreams, and no one will ever know you’re pretending. It is possible that the person or group whose dream you’re supporting may be happy and flattered to have your support or see your “excitement” and “passion”, and you may feel satisfaction in knowing that they feel that way. However, that satisfaction is only temporary.

It is going to catch up to you eventually and when it does, it will leave you feeling empty.

Embracing someone else’s dream helps them, not you. Sure you may get someone to notice you, or to like you, but there will always be a void where your dreams should be and where your success should be.  You will never receive satisfaction from someone else, and you will never receive success from someone else.Those things only comes from having your own passions, pursuing your own dreams, and living your own life. There may also be chance that you really mess up someone else’s dreams by pretending and wasting their time.This week, I challenge you to follow YOUR dreams, not someone else’s. Who knows, maybe following your own dreams will gain some attention of its own 😉

Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond.

See you next Monday,

-Kayla ❤

You Can’t Change the Weather

About two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were given the opportunity to go to Tampa Florida for an international training event on business, financial, success, and overall freedom for your life! While there, we were blessed to learn a lot of valuable information and meet a lot of successful individuals that motivated and inspired us to take our pursuit of  our dreams and desired lifestyles to the next level. Leaving the beautiful, warm weather in Tampa to return to the frigid conditions in Upstate New York was very depressing for us, but we quickly learned that we can’t change the weather. We had to deal with the cold weather while it was here, because quite frankly it isn’t going anywhere, anytime soon.

This concept of not being able to change the weather can easily be applied to various aspects of your life. Sometimes you are in situations that you have no control over, or don’t particularly care for, and that discourages you from wanting to pursue your dreams. Trust me, I totally understand. Things such as school, children, and work take a lot of your time and attention. However, for the most part, those elements of your life are probably not going to change at this moment, so what do you have to do?

Push through.

Life doesn’t just stop because you have decided to pursue your dream.Often times, you get this idea or illusion that when you have a goal you are trying to pursue or a vision, everything is going to go perfectly and on your terms, but that isn’t reality. You still have to go to work, you still have to take care of your kids, you still have to study for your exams, clean the house, pay your bills, and everything else. Maybe one day those things WILL change for you, but while they are still very present in your life, you have to learn to accept them and push through. You can’t wait for those things to magically change for two reasons:

1)You’ll probably be waiting forever.

2) Those things probably won’t change until you make a change in your life (hint, hint, pursuing your dreams!).

Continue to work on pursuing your dreams despite your current situation or life dynamic. Yes, it may be hard to focus and give 100% to pursuing your dreams with everything else going on, but like I said, that’s life! You have to learn to stay motivated and driven to make your dream a reality amid the current stresses and situations in your life. When I returned from Tampa, I was so excited and on fire to pursue my dreams even though I had to come back to the freezing cold weather, work, and everything else that is going on in my life. Those things didn’t stop me from being excited or from pursuing my dreams, and they shouldn’t stop you either.

This week, I challenge all of you to stay on fire for your dreams, despite how the weather may be in your life right now. Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond!

See you guys next Monday!

-Kayla ❤

To hear more about our trip to Tampa email me at designyourlifeplan@gmail.com