You DON’T really want Success

From the time I was 13 years old in 8th grade until I graduated high school, I ran Varsity Track for my high school track team in Hannibal, NY. During my five years of running varsity track, I was blessed to be able to go to the State Qualifying track meet three of those five seasons. Every year, there was a young runner from a school near Albany who was so fast and unstoppable that would beat all of us in the 100m sprint. No one was ever able to beat her, and one year, a group of us girls got together to ask her what she did to get so fast, and after whooping our tail in the 200m as well, she sat down to tell us.

A strict diet and intense training seven days a week were amongst her tips for success, and each year, I always said:

“Next year, I’m going to do that. I’m going on a strict diet with no junk food, no soda, and no sweets, and I’m going to train every day. I’m beating her this year.”

I always started off my season saying this, and as the season moved forward, I slowly fell away from doing what I had to do to be successful. I would find myself saying I want to win, I want to beat this girl, I want to get faster. I was so determined and so passionate about doing this, but I would find myself eating chips after practice, going to Kim’s to get ice cream, sleeping in on the weekends rather than getting up.

I didn’t really want success.

Every year, I made a declaration to follow the system and tips for success that were given to me, but I didn’t really want it. Yes, I would get frustrated after each state qualifying meet, because I didn’t win, but if I had really wanted to be successful, if I had really wanted to get faster, if I had really wanted to win, I would’ve been training seven days a week and following the diet regimen I needed to follow, but did I do that? No. Did I have success? No. Did I want success? No.

When it comes to some of your goals and dreams, a lot of you claim you want to be successful, but you really don’t. You will have all of the tools, systems,mentors, support, and motivation in the world right in your lap as I did, but you won’t use them, you won’t follow them, and you won’t listen to them. Someone or something will show you exactly what you need to do to be successful, but instead you play with their advice and  tools for success by not listening,by half doing things, or by not doing anything at all. Then after you don’t see success, you get frustrated and mad at everyone and everything. However, the only person you should be mad at and blame is YOURSELF.

Success isn’t going to be handed to you in a basket. No one is going to do the work for you, and when you’re in a position to be successful and you play with it, or throw it away, then you don’t really want to achieve your dreams or goals.

This week, I challenge you to take a look at your dreams and goals, and decide if you’re really serious about achieving them. If you are really serious about your success, take a look at what you’re doing to achieve those goals. Are you using the tools you are given? Are you following the system you have been given? Are you listening to your mentors or others who have already been successful at what you’re trying to do? If the answer to any of those questions is a “no”, then you need to make a change- especially if you  really want to be successful, because a “no” to any of those questions indicates otherwise.

Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond.

-Kayla ❤




Yesterday while looking at Facebook, someone posted a status about their ongoing issues with men that I found to be pretty interesting. Basically, the status said that all the guys in their neighborhood were worthless cheaters and that they were willing to accept that. This individual believed that there were no “good guys” left and that this “type of guy” was the only guy that existed. Of course, I didn’t agree with this status, and quite frankly neither did a lot of people. In fact, some of the main comments on this status emphasized that “not all men were cheaters”, and that this person needed to stop talking to “the guys in their neighborhood.”

After reading this status and all the comments, it reminded me of this quote by Jim Rohn.

“‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.

If every person in your neighborhood seems to be bad news and have the same negative attributes, then it is obvious that you are going to have a negative experience with them. This person may be the most faithful, caring person in the world, but if they continue to talk to the guys in their neighborhood who apparently aren’t all of those things, then it doesn’t matter- the end result will not be good.This does not only apply to intimate relationships like that of the aforementioned Facebook post, but also to friendships, relationships with family members,and anyone else you interact with on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter how smart you are, how determined you are, or how successful you are, if you spend the majority of your time with people who aren’t productive,determined, or successful, then your chances of achieving what you want are slim to none.

Sometimes your circle can leave you in a circle.

Think about the five people you spend the most time with:

Are they doing something positive and productive with their lives?

Are they successful and strive to achieve their dreams?

Are they peaceful and content rather than troublesome and disastrous?

Do they have a positive influence over your life and decisions?

Do they  support you and help you achieve your dreams?

If the majority of your friends can’t be put into any of the categories above, I think it may be time to revise your circle. We all have friends who are more on the unproductive side of things when it comes to life and success, but they still may be good friends and that’s okay. However, if this is the only type of people you spend all of your time with, and base your decisions off of, you will be unproductive as well if you aren’t already. You won’t progress, grow, or ever achieve your dreams.You will be in a circle going ’round and ’round watching your life pass you by and your dreams stay just that- dreams.

This is where things get hard.

A lot of you cannot even imagine severing relationships with people who are holding you back because for a lot of you, the people holding you back are best friends, boyfriends/girlfriends,and family members. I am not saying that you should cut off these people off forever, but when it comes to your goals and your dreams, your interactions with some people have to be minimized- especially if you are truly determined to achieve those dreams and desires for your life. It’s not going to be easy, and it’s not going to feel better after a few days, but it has to be done. Chances are, once they see you chasing your dreams and bettering yourself they will do the same!

This week, I challenge you to take a serious look at your circle and really think about who is helping you and who is holding you back. From there, decide who you want to continue spending your time with. Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond! However, if you want to be a diamond, you can’t stay buried amongst a bunch of rocks. See you next week!

-Kayla ❤