Yesterday while looking at Facebook, someone posted a status about their ongoing issues with men that I found to be pretty interesting. Basically, the status said that all the guys in their neighborhood were worthless cheaters and that they were willing to accept that. This individual believed that there were no “good guys” left and that this “type of guy” was the only guy that existed. Of course, I didn’t agree with this status, and quite frankly neither did a lot of people. In fact, some of the main comments on this status emphasized that “not all men were cheaters”, and that this person needed to stop talking to “the guys in their neighborhood.”
After reading this status and all the comments, it reminded me of this quote by Jim Rohn.
“‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
If every person in your neighborhood seems to be bad news and have the same negative attributes, then it is obvious that you are going to have a negative experience with them. This person may be the most faithful, caring person in the world, but if they continue to talk to the guys in their neighborhood who apparently aren’t all of those things, then it doesn’t matter- the end result will not be good.This does not only apply to intimate relationships like that of the aforementioned Facebook post, but also to friendships, relationships with family members,and anyone else you interact with on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter how smart you are, how determined you are, or how successful you are, if you spend the majority of your time with people who aren’t productive,determined, or successful, then your chances of achieving what you want are slim to none.
Sometimes your circle can leave you in a circle.
Think about the five people you spend the most time with:
Are they doing something positive and productive with their lives?
Are they successful and strive to achieve their dreams?
Are they peaceful and content rather than troublesome and disastrous?
Do they have a positive influence over your life and decisions?
Do they support you and help you achieve your dreams?
If the majority of your friends can’t be put into any of the categories above, I think it may be time to revise your circle. We all have friends who are more on the unproductive side of things when it comes to life and success, but they still may be good friends and that’s okay. However, if this is the only type of people you spend all of your time with, and base your decisions off of, you will be unproductive as well if you aren’t already. You won’t progress, grow, or ever achieve your dreams.You will be in a circle going ’round and ’round watching your life pass you by and your dreams stay just that- dreams.
This is where things get hard.
A lot of you cannot even imagine severing relationships with people who are holding you back because for a lot of you, the people holding you back are best friends, boyfriends/girlfriends,and family members. I am not saying that you should cut off these people off forever, but when it comes to your goals and your dreams, your interactions with some people have to be minimized- especially if you are truly determined to achieve those dreams and desires for your life. It’s not going to be easy, and it’s not going to feel better after a few days, but it has to be done. Chances are, once they see you chasing your dreams and bettering yourself they will do the same!
This week, I challenge you to take a serious look at your circle and really think about who is helping you and who is holding you back. From there, decide who you want to continue spending your time with. Remember, you don’t have to be average, you can be extraordinary. You don’t have to be a rock, you can be a diamond! However, if you want to be a diamond, you can’t stay buried amongst a bunch of rocks. See you next week!